>Creating Effective Communication

>anef cinta Is normal to occasionally
disagree with their
spouse. Whether it
relates to home-based
tasks, financial
calculations, or even a
dinner menu selection.
Even for couples angry
over certain things were
allowed. As long as they
do not say things that
make it hurt and lead to
divorce or breakup.
Expressing resentment
thing reasonable and
permissible, because it is
one form of
communication. Make
sure you communicate
how to keep it running
good for your
relationship ever lasting.
According to Patricia
Gibberman, a social
worker from Vancouver,
the key to the
relationship is still
running is still
communicate in ways
that deepen the love and
connection. How do you
communicate with your
partner, especially when
the argument says a lot
about the strength of
your marriage.
In his study, Dr. John
Gottman, a marriage
relationship found that
those who speak with
respect and love to have
a happier relationship
and lasting than the way
he spoke to attack each
other or criticize each
other.
“The husband and wife
are happy to apply
proper friends, because
they can handle conflicts
with gentle and positive
way,” said Gibberman,
couples therapist
communication.
Six steps can help you
and your partner to
communicate better and
more closely with each
other:
1. Being an active
listener
“Most couples do not
want to hear what their
partner said when there
perseruan, because they
are busy thinking about
how to deny their
partners,” explained
Gibberman. Before you
begin to argue, agree to
take turns. One of you
may speak, while the
other still and listen
without menyelak. After
each talk, show that you
understand the feelings
of the hearer.
2. Show gratitude
Every day, look for
opportunities to
recognize and appreciate
what your partner has
been done correctly. This
is better than looking for
mistakes. Saying things
like, “Thanks for dinner,
honey. Egg omelet you do
the most good,” will help
warm the atmosphere
and strengthen the
relationship. This sort of
thing will become easier
for you and he cope with
conflict.
3. Forget the past
When you are in a feud
with the him, try to be in
that topic. Tilting the old
topics will only make him
upset, not to mention
will make it is defensive.
Plus, it extends to other
topics will only make it
difficult to reach a
resolution.
4. Complaint without
blame
Use the word calls to
yourself when you ask
him to do something. For
example, you want the
he put his dirty clothes in
laundry basket, as long
as he is always put at
random. You can say, “I
like trouble if you put
dirty clothes
haphazardly. Can you
please me, every time
there’s dirty clothes,
please put in the basket
of dirty clothes?” Avoid
blaming words with the
use of a word to him,
like, “Why do you always
put your dirty clothes tuh
vain?”
5. Time out
“When the discussion is
not going well, most
couples tend to keep
fighting, which in turn
will aggravate the
situation,” explained
Gibberman. Next time, if
you’re arguing, try to ask
for time to hold
discussions and break for
a moment, whether it be
15 minutes or 5 days,
until you are quite calm
and could think clearly.
Originally discussed
again, not allowed to
evaporated.
6. Recognize your
mistakes
Take responsibility for
your contribution to the
problem, although it is
not easy. For example, “I
should talk to you about
the price of that sofa
before buying. Can we
obrolin how do we get to
pay the couch?” Trying
to dodge, “I’m spending
overpriced baseball,
really,” or attack,
“You’re spending too
expensive, too! See tuh
flat screen television!”
will only hurt each other
and trigger emotions.

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